There are many different types of counselling and therapy. The type I practice is known as Psychodynamic counselling and has its origins in the work of Sigmund Freud and his subsequent followers Melanie Klein and Donald Winnicott. It is based on the idea that difficulties in the present are most likely to have originated through past experiences. Understanding how these experiences contribute towards your current difficulties is a necessary step towards achieving changes in perception, awareness and relationships.
Therapy helps you become aware of habits in relationships so that you can understand and change them if you want to.
Sometimes patterns of relating are recreated with the therapist and we call this transference. In therapy this helps the therapist to understand you and to share this understanding.
Having a greater understanding of yourself enables you to make more of your relationships and to have a fuller and more satisfying emotional life.
What does counselling do?
Counselling seeks to understand how past experiences, current events or concerns for the future may be affecting your life today. It seeks to relieve mental suffering by uncovering the hidden patterns that underlie your thinking, feelings and behaviour. It looks at how a person relates to themselves and to others. These patterns can reveal themselves in a number of ways, through what they say to the counsellor, through their dreams and through the way they relate to the counsellor. This all helps the counsellor to understand you and to share this understanding. The depth of awareness gained gives you the freedom and confidence to change.
How does counselling work?
Counselling provides a regular time and space where you can explore your feelings, memories and desires to help you understand the processes that affect your everyday thoughts and behaviours, offering a real opportunity for relief from your difficulties. A place where you can talk and think with another who will listen to you in a non-judgmental way.
In this way counselling may gradually bring about a greater degree of self-understanding (insight) and enable you to find more appropriate ways of being and coping with your difficulties, to make more of your relationships and to have a fuller and more satisfying emotional life.